Hey lovelies, so we are a little over a month into the year and I really wanted to talk about resolutions today. I have a feeling that if you're anything like who I was a few years ago, around the New Year, you wrote out a long list of resolutions to keep for 2018. And I'm also pretty sure that by now, most of you have probably started to break those resolutions or just plain given up on them. Worst yet, you already feel like you have failed for the year. But I'm about to tell you something a bit controversial.
That list of resolutions you made. THROW IT AWAY!! Yeah that's right, I want you to get rid of it. Rip it up. Light it on fire. Whatever you do, just destroy the list. And it's not because I don't believe in setting goals for the year or think the purpose behind resolutions is dumb, this all has more to do with mindset and using language to put you in the best position to accomplish what you want.
Now that you've gotten rid of your resolutions list, I want you to start an intentions list. But first let me back up to what inspired this post. Since 2017, I have focused on a word for the year rather than a list of resolutions and my word for 2018 is Alignment. So in following with what felt in alignment with me at the beginning of the year, I decide to sign up for a membership at my favorite hot yoga studio, CorePower Yoga. During my first class of the year, my teacher, Emily (hey, girl!), introduced the idea of setting intentions rather than resolutions. And wow did that resonate with me.
See, she explained how the origin of resolution came from the word resolve which makes it seem like we are trying to fix a problem. If you think about most people's resolutions, they are pretty personal so essentially what we are telling ourselves is that we have to fix ourselves or more dramatically that there is something wrong with us. That makes this whole yearly processes kinda depressing and negative no? While here we are thinking oh we are going to set a resolution to improve and be awesome. Now, you might be thinking, but it's just a word, we don't honestly think that we have a problem or need fixing, but the truth is that language can tell a lot of how we feel subconsciously.
Intention on the other hand has more to do with determination and purpose and even relates to healing. Wouldn't you rather heal and grow then fix a problem that's well not really a problem. Intention feels more accepting and tolerable of mistakes and essentially just trying your best while resolution feels more unforgiving and like once you've failed, well that's it, game over.
So today, I invite you to be kind to yourself, show yourself some love and set intentions. Plus think about it, with intentions, you can set one each day because everyday is a new day, while a resolution is so cemented in the idea of only being set once a year.
I'd love to know if this resonates with you so please feel free to share what you think in the comments below, or you can always send me a quick email :)
P.S. I'm hosting a webinar this Thursday, February 15th and one on Sunday, February 18th discussing this a bit further! Would be happy to have you join, just click the link of the date that works best for you :)