Makeup (or Lack thereof): A Form of Self-Care


I've always seen makeup as a form of self-expression, but lately I've also been thinking of how it can serve as a form of self-care. I know, I know, it may not seem like the most obvious connection, but hear me out.

Often times, as women, we are told that we are putting makeup on for someone else, be it to look good for friends, but usually people tease that it's for a guy ( *huge eye roll* ). But honestly, the truth is we wear makeup for ourselves. We are self-conscious creatures in a society that pays a lot of attention to looks and well we want to feel good in this society. It may not mean we don't feel beautiful already, we just want to feel fabulous or bring attention to our favorite features.

And it really is as simple as that. We want to look good for ourselves and this in itself defines self-care. We take care of ourselves by making ourselves feel good on how we look on that day. Especially on days we are feeling blah, we may whip out and swipe on that red lipstick that makes us feel like a powerhouse or that mascara that helps us look awake so we don't feel people are staring at us like we are zombies. So if we really think about it, makeup is a self-care and self-love boost. But it doesn't mean that we don't feel beautiful without all the priming.

Nothing makes a woman more beautiful than the belief that she is beautiful
— Sophia Loren

In fact, lack of makeup is also a form of self-care and self-love. The most obvious reason is that it is a form of accepting ourselves as we are, but I think it can go deeper than that. I myself don't usually wear make up to work (I'm a nanny, so better not to leave makeup on the baby lol). But it's not just because I don't necessarily feel I NEED to wear makeup but honestly it's because I'd rather sleep for a bit longer. 

I mean how is that not self-care, sleeping, I mean. It's probably one of the things we get the least of and leave at the bottom of the self-care list. But yes, plain and simple, not wearing makeup allows us to sleep in and that's just the best! But besides that, you are also acting in the mindset of self-care in the fact that you're letting your skin breath, therefore, you are showing it love. 

In the end, whatever you choose, makeup or sans makeup, you do you, boo! You are beautiful no matter what you choose. But no matter what please remember the SPF, you want to love your skin but also protect it ( I sound like my mother lol). I'm curious, which do you choose and do you agree with makeup (or lack thereof) being a form of self-care?

Love + Beauty, Astrid

A Little Motivation Monday, with Love

Hey guys, I know I haven't posted in about a week or so. I was going to try to post on Friday, but I got super busy and then I celebrated Valentine's Day with my man over the weekend. Anyway, I wanted to write a little motivation Monday post related to this romantic holiday. First off, I must say I'm currently falling in love with Michael all over again and it was all thanks to our simple, yet magical weekend. We have been together for a little over 4 years, but as much as we love each other and really compliment each other, we have had our share of trying moments. In fact, we had broken up for a short while due to the pressure of life and college, but thankfully we are working through it and find ourselves more and more in love each day.

Relationships are difficult and love is complicated, that's just the way things are. But the point of this motivation Monday post is not to talk about my weekend, or the difficulty of relationships so much as it is to motivate people to put love first. Yes I know it may seem like an obvious thing or for some of us we may have been taught to not put a man/woman first, but that's not quite what I mean. What I mean is that we have to accept that without love in our life, we would be pretty miserable creatures. Also I am not just talking about relationships here, but also about self love.

I see so many people, including myself, forgetting to love themselves. Instead we fall victims to hating ourselves. We put ourselves down and let our insecurities take over. And sadly this doesn't allow us to reach happiness. So I ask you to spend a moment alone to love yourself. It may seem silly or even impossible for some, but I think if more people learned to love themselves, there would be less crime and less wars. 

Going back to the relationship aspect though, once a person can love themselves, they can then be happy with someone else. I know that sounds so cliché, but it's the truth. Part of why Michael and me have been able to work things out this time around is, at least on my part, because I have learned to love myself. I have slowly let go of insecurities I had that were getting in the way of me enjoying my time with him. It was making me a pretty miserable person to be around and led me to shutting him out. Thankfully, I am slowly learning to accept my flaws and love myself because of them and this has led to so much happiness for me.

I know this post might appear to be all over the place and perhaps a bit preachy, but I just wanted to be honest and due to the past holiday, I also thought it was appropriate. So go, love yourself and find happiness for yourself.

Love and Happiness,

P.S. I will start writing weekly features. I already know what I want to do based on the day of the week, just need to ease into it. So be on the look out for more regular posts XOXO